Overcome anger by using a simple but powerful happiness technique... it will can make you happier, healthier and more successful. The key to success is using your mind more creatively and strategically. Knowing how to turn a bad situation into a good one can make the difference between success and failure, or happiness and unhappiness. If you perceive any negative situation in beneficial ways you'll feel more confident in dealing with it.
Reframing
Reframing a bad situation in a favorable way will give you the power to overcome anger and lower depression, while boosting your morale.
And it will help you to find the silver lining in every cloud.
Reframing, a powerful happiness technique, is one of the most important skills used by optimists to keep the upper hand, lower depression or avoid getting depressed. And... this is one of the favorite techniques used by my clients to increase their optimistic thinking. Once they get the hang of it, they love it.
Reframing simply involves taking a negative situation and turning it around in your mind in a way that makes it appear more positive. Reframing let's you uncover the hidden positive aspects of a dark situation or event, and gives you a sense of control over a difficult situation... and helps you to overcome anger and frustration.
Case Example
Let's say you have a new supervisor at your job...
And your co-worker forms a negative opinion of the person, which influences you to take a critical view, as well. Your co-worker thinks the new boss is terrible, and feels she'll hate working under her. Do you have to give in to the prevailing pessimistic view?
You can counter this negative assumption by developing a more hopeful narrative. You can find something you like about the supervisor, and tell yourself a different story. First, you can give her a chance... and second you can try to form a positive impression... and third you can seek to build a good relationship with her. Your optimistic approach with enable you to feel good about the future, and enhance your chances of working well with the new supervisor. You'll feel less depressed and anxious. You'll be less prone to become angry every time something happens in the office.
Why don't you get some practice reframing? You'll soon be able to reframe even the worst situation. Reframing won't make a bad situation go away, but it will help you to survive and often to conquer it.
Situation: It's raining out, but you wanted to play tennis. How can you reframe it?
Possible reframe: Instead of getting down, why not find something to do indoors... something you've been wanting to find time to do?
Situation: You go to the doctor and find out you have an incurable disease.
Possible reframe: Rather than giving in to panic and despair, you could read everything on the disease you can find and try to identify ways to keep the disease from getting worse. You'll overcome anger and tap into the natural healing power of optimism.
Try to find good reframes for other problems or events in your life. Be creative and let your imagination loose!
See Problems As Opportunities In Disguise
Believe it or not, problems can actually make you happier. How? Let's think of it this way...
Each problem is a hidden opportunity to reframe and reinvent a situation constructively. It's a challenge, but it can be done. And, by solving one problem at a time, or facing the challenge therein, you'll gain confidence and strength... which will make you more resilient.
Reframing unfortunate circumstances will give you a sense of accomplishment. You'll grow as you deal with the challenges of your life, and you'll have fun turning each challenge to your advantage. Plus, creative reframing is another way to cultivate optimism... and if you cultivate optimism...
Lifelong happiness will be yours!
The recent research on happiness reveals just how effective optimism is in giving people greater happiness. it will make you happier and more prosperous.
Let's Summarize
Try a simple happiness technique and success strategy called reframing to help you overcome anger and decrease depression. And see if you don't feel less fearful, anxious or depressed... and more in control of your life. Even if you aren't depressed or angry, optimism can keep you from getting that way. Remember to find the good in a bad event and turn it to your advantage by strategically reframing it along more hopeful lines. Refaming and other optimistic skills will make you happier and healthier, and give you more joy and pleasure in your life.
Good luck! And please let me know how you're getting along.
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