How can you be easier on yourself?
This is a great question because the harshest person to ever judge us and not forgive us happens to be ourselves. Not a great thought sometimes but it is the truth. The key to happiness and success is a self journey of forgiveness and self-understanding. In this article I will cover how these three things can help you feel more happiness and self-confidence in your life:
- Personal forgiveness
- Mistakes are really our friends
- Feelings of failure are nothing more than that: feelings
We need to treat ourselves like honored friends and not like arch enemies. The things we cannot forgive about our own selves will be the very things that will keep up from achieving the success and joy we seek.
The thing is that when we can forgive ourselves, we can then feel better about ourselves, thus boosting our self-confidence. It's like we accept that everyone is human except ourselves. Meaning that they are capable of making mistakes for which they should be forgiven. But we don't extend this type of thinking toward ourselves.
It's time to start thinking about yourself in a better way and remember that you will make mistakes. Actually your mistakes are what make you, you. it's through failure that you realize what you want, what you are capable of doing and what you choose will define who you are. So learn to see making mistakes as a way to get to know yourself.
The more you do this the more you'll be able to build self-confidence. Confidence doesn't come from succeeding. Confidence comes from actually knowing that you can pick yourself back up off the ground when you fail. It's not a question about looking good, it's an inner knowing that you've got what it takes to persevere.
So get over your feelings of failure. They are nothing more than just that, feelings. Give things a try and in your life. Laugh when you can't get it right. Some things will just not be for you. Accept it. Maybe you are great at archery, maybe you've got horrible aim. That's fine. It doesn't mean you can be a happy person if you can shoot an arrow into the bulls-eye. Relax and have fun with new endeavors and if you can't do them. Well, that's OK. Stop wasting your time on the stuff you can't do and start pursuing the stuff that you can actually make progress on. Enjoy this journey. Enjoy your natural talents.
You'll see that when you can try something new, laugh at your mistakes and then move on, you'll have lots more confidence in yourself than if you judge yourself too harshly for not having this skill or that skill. You can't have all the skills in this world, so focus on the ones that come easy to you, that feel good when you're doing them and in which you can laugh at yourself when you make mistakes.
Your life will be easier for you and you'll gain that self-confidence to tackle new and bigger endeavors in the future.
"Anne Dessens is the founder of AnneDessens.com - your one-link to everything 'self-improvement': diet, recipes, running & walking, deep breathing, success, journaling, energy and universal laws.