Believing in yourself means you will have to take chances, be prepared to fail, be prepared to learn from those failures and ultimately be prepared to grow as an individual in the process. Believing in yourself is not automatic, believing in yourself means you will have to go against the grain, believing in yourself means you will be met with criticism at times and believing in yourself means you will have to consciously be aware of what you are doing at all times.
When we take the beaten path and conform to average standards we become average thinkers, we make average choices and live average lifestyles. We are so much more than we give ourselves credit for, but it goes unnoticed because we do not believe in ourselves enough. When people say, "just be yourself" what they should be saying is "just believe in yourself" because it's impossible to be yourself if you do not believe in yourself first.
Our self-image is created by the information we have agreed to accept as true over the years. Obviously if we have a poor self-image, we will doubt our own abilities, mask our shortcomings and justify our current circumstances. Unfortunately this is often done on an unconscious level because very few people actually question their beliefs. The information you have allowed your mind to accept as true over the years is what ultimately defines who you are in this present moment. Every choice you make today is influenced by the information you have fed your mind yesterday. The past creates the future by the seeds we plant and therefore sow.
You should be just as careful with what you feed your mind as you are about what you feed your body. If you want your subconscious mind to learn good behavior, then you should be consciously aware of what information you are subjecting it to. Positive thoughts lead to positive action which in turn leads to positive outcomes. Be very aware of this next time you turn on the news channel, pick up a newspaper or listen to others who consistently complain. Feed your mind every day with positive material, contemplate how this positive material can enhance your life and practice gratitude often. Your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy...you are the controller.
Life is not all bunny rabbits, lollipops and happy-go-lucky fairy-tales. Life is not all hardships, tragedies and difficulties either. Life is no more, or less, than what we have CHOSEN to perceive it to be. We all have fears, worries, self-esteem issues and obstacles to face. We will always have these in our lives at one time or another, but unless your reactions to these things change, your results will NOT.
You are a product of your choices. You will always be a product of your choices. When faced with difficulties...choose to accept, learn and grow. Nothing outside changes enough to make you feel any different than what your reaction dictates. You were, are, and always will be the master of your life, you, and you alone have the power to be whatever you choose to be. We are the creators of the GOOD, and the BAD in our lives, and from this day forward you need to consciously make choices that benefit your future self.
We make choices based on our beliefs, which have been created by accepting information that in most cases does not benefit our growth. Most of the information we hear today is pure garbage, it adds no value to our lives whatsoever. There's no point looking back now, there's no point trying to figure out where our poor self-image originated from, there's no point playing the blame game. The only thing we need to recognize is that every choice made from here on out must be consciously made. If you are aware that your self-image is poor, or that you doubt your own abilities, then the answer is obvious...you need to change your thinking...you need to change the information you subject your mind to and you need to question every choice you make.
The more positive the information you feed your mind...the more positive your attitude will become. The more positive your attitude...the better choices you begin to make. The better choices you make...the better outcomes you will get. The better outcomes you get...the more fulfilled you will become. The more fulfilled you become...the better your self-image becomes. It's like a domino effect but you have to consciously make it work.
Declan O Flaherty